step eleven: Become trustees

We have been talking a lot about priorities. Each of these sections has been in some way about one of the priorities of the group. Underneath it all are whatever priorities are causing you to consider forming such a group. Priorities which remain only words or only good times together are worthless. Priorities cost. Paying that cost willingly is how we celebrate our priorities and also how we strengthen our ability to act on them. How do we pay for our priorities? Think about life in general: when something is really important, like eating or caring for a child, we dedicate important things to it, like money, time, energy -- anything else you can think of?

Here is where half the readers check out: money. For many people in Connexions groups, the group will be in place of a church; for them it is appropriate to give their tithes to the group. Some people will be in a group in addition to church; for them, a small donation is appropriate. At any rate, the group must be self-supporting and financially responsible through the contributions of the members. By doing this, you become trustees of the money you have been lent and of the group God has allowed you to become a part of.

Where does the money go? Think about the connections you are forming.

Connecting with each other: Some groups will not have any expenses, but most groups will eventually come up with something they want to spend some money on. The group as a whole must supply the money. It must be self-supporting. It is not fitting for one person to be footing the bill -- this amounts to financial irresponsibility on the part of the group and is, in effect, outside support. No matter how small or large, let the group pay the cost. Often, small groups like to pay for "fellowship events," like a play or dinner in a restaurant together, as a group. This way, even those who can not afford to can participate.

Connecting with the Celtic Catholic Church: You knew we were going to say that, didn't you? But how else do you make a connection except by putting your money where your mouth is? That's really what this whole section is about.

Connecting with Jesus: How can you give money to Jesus? Easy -- you give it to his "least brothers and sisters" who have none of their own. Or you help supply Bibles to everyone on the planet by giving to the American Bible Society. Or you help protect the vanishing habitat of one of his endangered species. Or....

And what about your talents and energy and anything else you can think of to give? You are on your own -- you will figure out something really good. How can you not? Love will always find a thousand ways.

More info: Many similar small groups, like churches and twelve step meetings, take a collection at each meeting. After taking care of actual and planned group expenses and maintaining a prudent reserve, give the rest away. Give up control of it. That is what makes it a gift.